Does Marrying A Doctor = Drama In Paradise?

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Well, he can afford to pay your beemer payments, so what do you care?







(not really how I feel, I'm just filling in for LADoc00 before he can get here)
 
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My significant other is just starting medical school and won't be to far from home or me 🙂 like rose2summer we fit well together and have talked about marriage plans after his first year. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for making a relationship work or any experiences that they could share 😛
 
20 hours a day?! That's on a regular basis? WTH does he do?

My DH is a surgical resident and he works less than that. So yes, the schedule eases up. He had more free time in med school than he does as a resident, but the futher you progress in residency, the more it eases up (from what I've seen anyway).

DH leave the house before I wake up (7ish) then he usually gets home around 8-9PM. We have dinner and hang out, then he goes to bed at midnight. Sometimes he is at the hospital until ungodly hours for emergency surgery but that's not the norm. He is on home-call one weekend per month (he goes in the AM to do rounds) and one night per week.
 
honestly? two hours away and his residency can kill your relationship. it will take a lot of "wanting to" on both your parts to keep the love alive.

My husband just started his first year of residency on July 1, and since then I have hardly talked to him. Last night he came in after being gone 33 hours, and he went straight to sleep. And then his dad called, and then his brother called, and then he had to do some research on his patients. Meanwhile, I am soooo busy running a household all by myself, and keeping up with my own hectic life. (and we don’t even have kids!)

It is tough, but it can be done. I love him enough to stick it out. But if we weren’t married and lived far a part, I would not even attempt to make the sacrifice.
 
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bananaface said:
5 bucks says LADoc hits on the OP.
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Dont post with that cutie dog avatar and say such things!

Let me tell the OP no matter what speciality and almost irregardless of where he is going to work, fully educated physicians work hours not much different than execs. Some work fantastic hours, I know a guy who works 20 hours a week, lives in a condo on the beach and makes six figures. Name a profession that can do that? (dont mention stripping/porn please)

A more important ? to ask is when you are together, do you have lots of sex...and more importantly do you orgasm?
 
LADoc00 said:
Dont post with that cutie dog avatar and say such things!

Let me tell the OP no matter what speciality and almost irregardless of where he is going to work, fully educated physicians work hours not much different than execs. Some work fantastic hours, I know a guy who works 20 hours a week, lives in a condo on the beach and makes six figures. Name a profession that can do that? (dont mention stripping/porn please)

A more important ? to ask is when you are together, do you have lots of sex...and more importantly do you orgasm?
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BTW- irregardless is not a word. 😍 The word is thoroughly and consistently condemned in all American references I can find. But it’s also surprisingly common. It’s formed from regardless by adding the negative prefix ir-; as regardless is already negative, the word is considered a logical absurdity.
 
Dancing Doctor said:
BTW- irregardless is not a word. 😍 The word is thoroughly and consistently condemned in all American references I can find. But it’s also surprisingly common. It’s formed from regardless by adding the negative prefix ir-; as regardless is already negative, the word is considered a logical absurdity.
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Damnit! Proper syntax and spelling are not the points of my rants and ramblings!!

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I've never dated a doctor but I've had long distance relationships and dated someone who travels 75% of the year. I guess it depends what is most valuable to you in a relationship. For me, I don't mind if I don't see the person for weeks or even months as long as I can trust him. I guess, I don't need someone around all the time to feel whole. I actually think it's better because I value the time we spend together and I don't get sick of seeing his face everyday..lol.

I dunno...I'm a weird. Familiarity breed contempt for me. Why let it end so soon?

Also, I see the time apart as an opportunity to work on my goals and be independant.
I took communications workshop a few weeks back and marriage was a topic. The people who were happily married for 25+ years, said that when they had finally accepted that they may not meet the love of their lives or get married, they met their SO.

It makes sense, because there are no expectations.
 
rose2summer said:
Oh my LADoc00! I just knew you would come with a funny remark. Ha Ha. In response to your questions, my answer is yes to both, but isn't there more to life than sex? I have a feeling you will say no but at least your response will be comical.
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You are having sex with a presumably cute doctor and orgasming right and left, what exactly are you looking for? Paradise? Self-actualization/Nirvana?

Go with it I say. Now for the record, are we talking both clitoral and vaginal orgasms? Or just one?
 
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rose2summer said:
LADoc, why do I feel like I know you? Uh oh!
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Why yes, it was bar on a warm West L.A. night....


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I think you should keep those patterns. I was once told Independence really meant Interesting!

If you really trust your SO (and you know deep down inside if you do) then shouldn't that suffice. I've dated men who have lived closer--next town over, but I knew I couldn't trust them and it was torture. I'm sure you've felt that at least once before..it sucks!
 
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Good Luck..hun!
 
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rose2summer said:
We met at a bar LADoc?

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Yes, I said hi, introduced myself and then bear hugged you. You claimed to like the rough stuff, but I dunno, you freaked when I bit you on the neck. I think it was that sushi place on Sunset, blanking on the name. The one with a nightclub on the 2nd floor. I was with 2 Australians at the time, who were amazed anyone could really be that bold and not get arrested.

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rose2summer said:
Oh, that's right we met at Miyagi's on Sunset. I remember! Yea, the hug was nice, but the bite on the neck, a little much, don't you think! How old are you? I seriously think that I may know you, making this even funnier.
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OMFG, it was Miyagi's!..okay this isnt funny anymore...but I could theoretically meet you at the Garden of Eden sometime, always wanted to go there, that is if your BF doesnt mind!
 
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It is not like it matters how a male doctor treats his wife, since one of the core reasons she is with him is for his title, prestige, presence, ect, instead of who he is at heart
 
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bananaface said:
That was an easy $5. :laugh:
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I don't know, from the cheap seats it looked as though the OP hit on him!

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piercj2 said:
It is not like it matters how a male doctor treats his wife, since one of the core reasons she is with him is for his title, prestige, presence, ect, instead of who he is at heart[/QUOTE


This is SOOO not true!!!! I met my husband while he was doing his rotations ( 4th yr student) and I make more money than he does and probably will after he's done with school. As far as title and prestige...........I hate to break it to ya........but docs are a dime a dozen these days!! The medical field is nothing like it used to be!!!
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rose2summer said:
Huh? I don't get it. Was that message for me?
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no, it was for LA doc, who claimed that the point of his rant was not correct spelling or syntex. I felt bad pointing out that irregardless was not a word. (look at what was quoted before my reply for further clarification). 🙂 there is, however, a large amount of sarcasm dripping from the words...
 
piercj2 said:
It is not like it matters how a male doctor treats his wife, since one of the core reasons she is with him is for his title, prestige, presence, ect, instead of who he is at heart
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LOLOLOLOL I met hubby when he was delivering pizzas and he never talked about dreams to be a doctor until after we married.....now he is an intern.

I think you got it backwards anyways.....that is how a female doctor treats her husband who stays at home - its all about that househusband title and prestige. 🙂

Wifty
 
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